At the end of the workday yesterday, as I hit the stairs toward my car, one of my co-workers caught the door behind me and asked “winning or losing?” as he started down the stairs.
“Winning or losing?” I asked in return, confused at what the context of this odd question could possibly be. “Winning, I guess!” I finally exclaimed back, after a 2- or 3-second pause that seemed extraordinarily long.
I didn’t realize the implications of the question – and of my answer – until I thought about them for a few minutes. It had been a long day. I was tired from running between one thing and the next since 7:30 that morning. My head hurt and I was hungry. But I was still winning.
My colleague at GM (whose name I’ll figure out once I get back to work this morning) transformed an inane question, to which are possible any number of inane answers, into a way of forcing a fast, no-holds-barred, but ultimately accurate evaluation of “life at the moment”. To answer the question “Winning or losing?”, you have to look at how you feel, look at “how’s it goin?”, look at the day you’ve had and the day you’ve still got ahead of you, and answer quickly and simply.
There are no complex, passive answers to this question like, “eh, could be better, but I’ll get through it,” or, “hey, not too bad, it’s almost Friday!”
As I carded out of the building and walked toward my car, the power of the simple binary “winning or losing?” question started to get clearer. Yes, I had a headache, and it had been a long day, and I was tired. But I was leaving my good job and heading for a reliable car, to drive to visit a nice house that I can afford to buy, to meet my beautiful, wonderful girlfriend who will eventually live there with me. There were no car bombs to worry about during the drive, and no flood waters to wade through.
The simple question: “Winning or losing?” forces a true answer that reflects not just how one’s day is going, but how one’s life is going. Because at any point in every game, no matter how long the game is, you’re nearly always doing one or the other.
Are you Winning today, or Losing?